Based on the Donald Sterling controversy, self development author Robert Ringer at the LewRockwell.com writes: (bold mine)
Personally, whenever there’s a big media blitz about some perceived wrongdoing, I prefer to ignore the hysteria and think about what I can learn from the situation that could be useful to me. Off the top of my head, following are a handful of lessons that I believe are worth gleaning from the Sterling media circus — lessons that you can use to improve yourself and your own life.
People say negative things behind your back all the time. If you don’t already know that, wake up! If you do know it, don’t let it bother you. Whenever I hear that someone has said something unflattering about me, I opt to take the rationally selfish approach and do my best to ignore it — especially when I know it’s patently false. I hope, for your sake, that you do the same. Don’t buy into the hate-speech scam. People have opinions, some of which you may like, some of which you may not like. Best to leave all that nonsense up to the PC Police, who achieve mental orgasms by harassing (perceived) evil speakers. You don’t have time to get bogged down in group protests if you’re interested in bettering your life. “They” say that hate speech is bad, but what’s worse is the idea that someone actually believes he has the moral authority to decide what constitutes hate speech in the first place. Of course, if someone hurls a remark directly at you, and you, in your sole judgment, consider it to be “hateful,” that’s your prerogative. As an individual, you have a right to make a determination about speech that is aimed specifically at you. But before you get yourself all worked up over it, remember what mom taught you about sticks and stones. Learn to reject hypocrisy and hypocrites. In the Sterling saga, the hypocrisy is so thick it’s stifling, as you already know if you’ve been following the story at all. The world is full of hypocrites, especially in politics (which is really what hate speech is all about). Best you focus on policing yourself to make sure that you are not guilty of hypocrisy. Never forget that friends and sweethearts have a way of becoming enemies. Make sure your mouth understands that. Talk is not cheap. On the contrary, it has proven to be quite capable of destroying lives. Think before you open your mouth. In the same vein, be vigilant about not making The Big Mistake. We all make little mistakes on a daily basis, but be careful about making a mistake so big that it can threaten your very survival.In Donald Sterling’s case, maybe he’s a terrible person — I have no idea — but I suspect his remarks (which, while not nearly as bad as those that have been made by some of his most vocal critics) were nothing more than the angry rants of an old guy who was mad at his middle-school girlfriend.This is where mom’s advice comes in handy again: If you can’t say something nice about someone, don’t say anything at all. There’s a reason why aphorisms like this have been around forever: They’re true. Instead of wasting time fretting over Donald Sterling’s remarks, concentrate on what comes out of your mouth. The best protection against becoming Sterlingized (a form of sterilization performed by the loud crowd) is to follow a simple rule: Live every moment as though the whole world were watching and write every e-mail as though the whole world were going to be reading it — something politicians never seem to learn.Finally, of course, never — EVER — try to persuade people to change their fundamental beliefs, no matter how misguided you may think they are. Why? Because you will fail, and you’ll waste a lot of valuable time in the process. It’s called opportunity cost. [to my experience this observation is so very relevant. Thanks Mr. Ringer—Benson]Use your time to focus on your own life. The only person over whom you have total control is you. Put your efforts into purifying your own life, and forget about the Donald Sterlings of the world and the rabble-rousers who live for the thrill of trying to destroy them.
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